Good news homophobes! According to an article by one Richard Thompson Ford in World Net Daily Lite, you’re not homopobic at all!
Reviewing recent same-sex marriage thumbs-downs from the state Supreme Courts of Georgia and New York, Ford opines–
“But what if these gay-marriage bans were not animated by anti-gay bigotry? What if they represent a deeper-seated anxiety about gender and gender roles? What if popular aversion to gay marriage has less to do with hating same-sex couples than with a deep psychological attachment to a powerful symbol of sex difference: the tulle-covered bride and the top-hat-and-tails groom? “
Now fancy that — wedding cake decorations have Power! No doubt some “primitive” cargo cultist might imagine so. But even the African Villagers who aped their colonial rulers in ritualistic rites captured by Jean Rouch in Les Maitres Fous did so with tongue in cheek — thus making it possible for Jean Genet to elaborate on the cream of the jest in his seminal The Blacks: A Clownshow.
But then Genet was gay so for the likes of Ford what he says doubtless doesn’t count.
“No one clearly admits this, perhaps because most people aren’t sufficiently self-aware to name their deep anxieties—if they were, psychotherapists would be out of work. But you can hear the longing for secure gender identity in some of the comments of same-sex-marriage opponents. After San Francisco’s same-sex marriage experiment, one observer in a red county nearby complained: “God made marriage for Adam and Eve; not Adam and Steve.” It’s telling that this objection to same-sex marriage doesn’t rely on moral condemnation of same-sex couples but instead on the most primordial account of natural sex difference. “
No one “clearly admits this” for do so so would invite gales of derisve laughter, especially regarding the question of just how “natural” gender differentiation might be. (That’s Kate Borenstein’s cue.)
“Of course, some opponents of same-sex marriage are just anti-gay. But to dismiss all opposition to gay marriage as pure bigotry is to miss an important point”
And that important point would be?
“The key to evaluating the real stakes here is to think of gay rights in terms of two major categories: gay marriage and everything else. Because for gay rights other than marriage, the news isn’t nearly so dire. Many states forbid discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation, and a handful have codified domestic partnership status for same-sex couples. In 1992 only one Fortune 500 company offered employee benefits to same-sex domestic partners; today hundreds do. And polls show consistently growing support nationwide for gay rights other than marriage. Gallup found that 90 percent of Americans support equal employment opportunities regardless of sexual orientation. And 79 percent support the idea of homosexuals serving in the armed forces, a profound change in public opinion since the 1990s, when President Clinton thought it politically prudent to abandon his push for nondiscrimination in favor of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”
But somehow same-sex marriage is a different story.”
Different only for the Heterosexual Dictatorship (as Christopher Isherwood so accurately called it). For the gay rights movements insistence that same same-sex oriented desist in lying and hiding by standing up for their rights has brought about that shift in poll numbers and Fortune 500 practices. Resistance to same-sex marraige is simply the sort of line Yosemite Sam used to draw in front of Bugs Bunny and warn him that he should never consider crossing.
And what was Bugs’ response? All together now — “Oh Prunella!”
“The numbers here are murky but still highly suggestive: A 1996 Gallup poll showed that 27 percent of Americans supported same-sex marriage and 68 percent opposed it. In 2005 a similar poll showed that 28 percent of Americans supported same-sex marriage and 68 percent opposed it. And so far, every gay-marriage victory—in Massachusetts and for a few shining weeks, in that Camelot by the Bay, San Francisco—seems to spawn same-sex marriage bans in a few other states. As of today 18 states have written same-sex marriage bans into their constitutions, making change by the legislature or the judiciary at the state level impossible. Several other states have such bans on the ballot for November.
How to reconcile the growing support for equal rights for gay Americans with the seemingly hardening opposition to gay marriage? It certainly suggests that homophobia is only part of the explanation for the widespread resistance to same-sex marriage. A lot of the resistance is less about sexual orientation than about sex difference. In other words, it’s not about the difference between gay and straight; it’s about the difference between male and female. By this logic, conventional marriage doesn’t exclude gay couples from a special status reserved for straights; it excludes women from a special status reserved for men—that of husband—and excludes men from a status reserved for women—that of wife.”
Well things have always been murky for the straight and clueless. When the nice young man at the draft board noticed that I’d checked “yes” on the Whoopie Box (“Do you have homosexual tendencies?”) the first thing out of his mouth was “Do you play the man or do you play the woman?”
What a question! I of course said both, leaving him with a puzzled expression as he scribbled a note sending me off for an interview with the staff psychaitrist.
But they were understaffed and overloaded at the draft board that day, and so as the afternoon came to a close another official simply rubber-stamped a nice 4F on my card AND THUS I AVOIDED VIETNAM !
Instead I stayed on the homefront and entertained our Brave Fighting Men (especially sailors) in other ways that Thompson would dubtles disapprove of.
Does this sound purely semantic? It’s not.
Oh of course it is darling. And you know it.
“When San Francisco undertook its short-lived experiment with same-sex marriage, it confronted marriage certificate forms with blanks for the names of the “bride” and “groom.” The city hastily rewrote them to read “first applicant” and “second applicant.” And this is telling. Many people get married because they want the established sex roles the institution provides: a blushing, beautiful, white veil and miles-of-lace bride set off against her dashing, handsome, chivalrous groom.”
Really? No wonder Brittany Spears first marriage went south — not enough lace!
And we all rememebr the mountains of lace Diane Von Furstenberg wore when she married Barry Diller.
Or maybe it was the other way around.
“Same-sex marriage seems to undermine these very sex-specific statuses, leaving everyone a sex-neutral “applicant.” Sure, we could say same-sex marriages involve two brides or two grooms, but something really is lost in this translation: At that point the terms do not describe distinctively gendered roles but are merely gendered descriptions of the same role. We could just as well say “male applicant” and “female applicant.” This might explain why so many straight people think same-sex marriage will change the nature of marriage for them. “
Or maybe they’re just homophobic assholes scrambling for a cheap excuse to diss fags –like you darling.
“If I’m right, there are two reasons someone might oppose same sex-marriage: anti-gay animus or a desire to protect traditional sex roles. It’s no secret that traditional sex roles are in crisis.”
It’s no secret that traditional marraige is in crisis. Divorce rates have skyrocketed and everyone from David Letteramn to Brangelina to Johnny Depp has given it the go-by. And Johnny has been especially enthusiastic about upending traditional sex roles while playing the lead in the biggest box office bonanza of all time
“They’ve been battered by feminism’s attacks on male privilege and feminine mystique. Macho women have mocked female virtues (consider the gun-toting Thelma and Louise, the oversexed Samantha Jones of Sex and the City, or the wooden-stake- and holy-water-wielding Buffy). And house husbands, Mr. Moms, and “metrosexuals” have similary rejected or lampooned traditional masculinity. Today both men and women reject the constricting and unequal sex roles of past generations, but most still desperately want meaningful sex identities.”
Boo Fucking Hoo.
” So they cast about, all too often buying into crude stereotypes, such as those offered in books such as The Rules, which counsels the single girl to deploy the catty feminine wiles and emotional manipulation learned in junior high school; or The Game, which counsels the single boy to use psychological manipulation and deception to wrangle sexual favors from reluctant women. Marriage fills that gender gap: It is one of the few social institutions left that rigorously and unapologetically divides the sexes into distinctive, almost ancient, gender roles.
Remind me why I should give shit, won’t you dear?
“It should go without saying that the state should not advance anti-gay prejudice through the force of law.”
Except that’s precisely what you want.
“And as far as I’m concerned, the state has no business propping up distinctive sex roles in any context—that’s a job for Wonderbras and Viagra. But a hunger for distinctive sex roles is just not the same thing as anti-gay bigotry.”
Don’t you just love the “and as far as I’m concerned”? Especially when it’s followed by an “it is because I say it is!”
“So, the good news for gay-rights activists is that this string of same-sex marriage defeats doesn’t suggest that civil rights for gay men and lesbians in other contexts are doomed. Opposition to same-sex marriage can be perfectly consistent with strong support for gay rights elsewhere. The bad news is that the fight for gay marriage may be much more daunting than they had imagined. Proponents may need to fight not only anti-gay bias but a deeply ingrained desire for stable sex roles, too.
Don’t you mean a “deeply ingrained desire for cake ornaments”?
” Some gay-rights activists have begun to ask whether the fight for marriage is worth the resources they’ve been devoting to it. It’s a good question: If same-sex marriage provokes a distinctive form of popular resistance that isn’t anti-gay bias, maybe it would be better to avoid a war on two fronts and shift focus to civil unions and domestic partnerships. “
Except it IS anti-gay bias, as the New York State Supreme Court decision made crystal clear. (see my previous FaBlog post.)
“And if, despite all this, marriage remains at the top of the gay-rights agenda, proponents should try to respond to the inchoate fears and legitimate concerns of a large and potentially movable nonbigoted opposition, rather than attacking them as hateful bigots.”
But ya are a hateful bigot, Blanche — ya are a hateful bigot. And there’s no better proof of that than —
“Richard Thompson Ford teaches at Stanford Law School. He is the author of Racial Culture: A Critique. His forthcoming book is titled The Race Card.”
Do you have that card in Teal?