Well we’re all going to have to be incredibly “tough” and “manly” to face the future The World’s Worst Newspaper claims is in store for us.
“MALE COUPLES FACE PRESSURE TO FILL CRADLES”
“When the jubilant couple were wed in June, they exchanged personalized vows and titanium rings, cheered the heartfelt toasts and danced themselves breathless. Then, as the evening was winding down, unexpected questions started popping up.
One after another, their guests began asking: Are you going to have kids? When are you going to have kids?”
Kids? You mean like Paul Lynde, right?
“Tom Lotito and Matt Hay, both 26, could not help but feel moved. They never imagined as teenagers that they would ever get married, much less that friends and family members would pester them about having children.”
You mean we all have to be Neil and David ?
“It’s another way that I feel like what we have is valid in the eyes of other people,” said Mr. Hay, who married Mr. Lotito in June before 133 guests.”
Quite a blowout, Dudes.
“The shift in public opinion and the simple question — Are you having children? — is nothing short of a marvel to some gay men, perhaps even more so than to lesbians, for whom giving birth has always been an option.
Greg Moore, 62, a retired corporate manager in Fort Lauderdale, Fla., shakes his head with wonder when he sees young male couples chattering about their toddlers. That possibility seemed hopelessly out of reach when he and his 74-year-old husband, who have been together for 44 years and married in 2008, dreamed of having children. “Gay people didn’t have kids,” he said wistfully. “Straight people had kids.”
Popular culture is helping rewrite that script. Gay men who have children, or are considering having children, are becoming increasingly visible on network television. In “Modern Family,” the nation’s most popular television show, the couple Mitchell and Cameron considered adopting a second child this past season.”
Lily’s not enough?
“In “Scandal,” a new ABC series, a middle-aged White House staff member groused about his partner’s desire to adopt a baby from Ethiopia. And this fall, a new NBC sitcom called “The New Normal” will feature a gay couple and their surrogate.”
“The shift is also reflected in census data. Between 2000 and 2010, among same-sex couples raising children, the percentage of couples with adopted children increased to 20 percent from 9 percent, according to an analysis by Gary Gates, a demographer at the Williams Institute at the University of California, Los Angeles. (Most same-sex couples with adopted children are lesbians, but gay men make up a growing share, accounting for nearly a third of such couples in 2010, up from a fifth in 2000.)
“The definition of family is unquestionably evolving,” Dr. Gates said”
Which is precisely what this chicken sandwich
has been complaining about.
“Rudolph Chandler, 57, and George Walker, 43, who married in 2010, thought long and hard before they decided against having children. They say they greatly admire their friends who are parents. But these days, they are asked so often about their child-rearing plans that they roll their eyes oh-so-subtly when it comes up. “It’s irritating, tiring,” said Mr. Chandler, a health economist.
John Corvino, 43, chairman of the philosophy department at Wayne State University in Detroit, has even come up with a standard response that he leavens with a dash of humor when asked if he wants children: “To shovel the snow and mow the lawn, sure,” he says. “Beyond that, no.”
As for Mr. Lotito and Mr. Hay, the couple who married in June, in North Bethesda, Md., they said they were taken aback by the inquiries about children on their big night. “I was kind of like, ‘The wedding’s still going on, guys,’ ” Mr. Lotito said. “It’s flattering, but that’s really not on my radar.”
Mr. Lotito, who handles contracts for a federal agency, said he has never really wanted children. Mr. Hay is an elementary school music teacher. “He has like 800 children a week,” Mr. Lotito said. “It’s nice not to have them when he comes home.”
That has not deterred friends and relatives from continuing to ask. Mr. Lotito’s mother, Lisa Sanno, who dreams of grandchildren and asked about them (yet again) at the wedding, has been thinking about all the options.
At the moment, she is enamored with the idea of a surrogate who might give her son and son-in-law each a biological child. “They’re young,” said Ms. Sanno, ever the optimist. “Maybe they’ll change their minds.”
Don’t worry Ms. Sanno — Lucy and Desi are sure to persuade them.
But such musical bathos won’t work for David Halperin
“How to Be Gay” is based on a class with the same title that Mr. Halperin, who is gay, has taught at the University of Michigan. The class caused a small media tornado in 2000 when word of it was picked up for mockery by conservative news outlets. It eventually led outraged right-wing politicians in Michigan to propose a bill that would allow the Legislature to veto course offerings at the state’s public universities. (It failed.)
Gay panic! Many outsiders condemned the class as “an overt attempt to recruit straight students to the gay lifestyle,” Mr. Halperin writes. They feared it offered what he calls “the blueprint for homosexual world domination.” (Now there’s a blueprint that would make for a small, excellent work of comic speculative fiction.)
Cue Tony Perkins
“Among the most unusual things about “How to Be Gay” is that it is, at heart, a 500-plus-page work that explores a fundamental kind of gay sensibility by concentrating almost exclusively on one actress, Joan Crawford, and on a single scene in a single movie, the 1945 drama “Mildred Pierce.” Mr. Halperin zeros in on, one in which Mildred’s daughter declares her eagerness to get “away from you and your chickens and your pies and your kitchens and everything that smells of grease.” To which Crawford’s Mildred ultimately replies, “Get out before I kill you.”
“Mr. Halperin teases an enormous amount out of this scene, including the sense of “glamour and abjection” gay audiences find in Crawford, and how the film packages the “transgressive spectacle of female strength, autonomy, feistiness and power.” These aren’t new ideas, but Mr. Halperin works up to an argument (impossible to summarize here) about how the film evokes a “dissident perspective” on the very idea of romantic love.
He is articulate about many other things in this book, including how gay men often find more resonance in straight cultural artifacts than in gay ones. His funny shorthand for this is: “Why would we want Edmund White, when we still have ‘The Golden Girls?’ ”
Halperin is scarcely alone in his devotion ot Classical Gayness. Don’t forget David Leddick
“The number of families in the United States that constitute Mom , Dad and the kids is only about 23% of the population. The bulk of the people in this country are trying to work out lifestyles that suit who they are, not what other people think they should be. Join the mob.”
And speaking of “Mob Scenes” —
is always looking for one.
That’s Michelle crouching in the back, with Marus (see red circle) trying to hide behind a lampost.
This couple’s position re Teh Ghey has been quite clear.
Here they are with five of the children they claim to be their own.
There are 23 others as Wiki explains — sort of.
“In 1978, she married Marcus Bachmann, now a clinical therapist with a master’s degree from Regent University and a Ph.D. from Union Graduate School, whom she had met while they were undergraduates. After she received an LL.M. in taxation from William & Mary School of Law in 1988, the couple moved to Stillwater, Minnesota, a town of 18,000 near St. Paul, where they run a Christian counseling center. Bachmann and her husband have five children (Lucas, Harrison, Elisa, Caroline, and Sophia). Bachmann said in a 2011 town hall meeting that she suffered a miscarriage after the birth of their second child, Harrison, an event which she said shaped her pro-life views.
Bachmann and her husband have also provided foster care for 23 other children, all teenage girls. The Bachmanns were licensed from 1992 to 2000 to handle up to three foster children at a time; the last child arrived in 1998. The Bachmanns began by providing short-term care for girls with eating disorders who were patients in a program at the University of Minnesota. The Bachmann home was legally defined as a treatment home, with a daily reimbursement rate per child from the state. Some girls stayed a few months, others more than a year.”
Nice racket they’ve got going, ain’t it folks? Well there’s another story behind all this. And you cannot imagine my delight when learning about it.
“It has been well-known that Minnesota Republican Rep. Michele Bachmann has been against gay rights, however up until this past week we have not known the true reason why. Apparently while Bachmann was attending Winona State University she had a year-long romance with one of her fellow female classmates.
Free Wood Post was able to interview Bachmann’s former partner recently at a Democratic campaign event in Minnesota. She made us aware that she was required to sign a confidentiality agreement, but is willing to accept the consequences because she feels it’s imperative that this story be told. We’ve summarized the interview below for your convenience.
Bachmann (then known as Michele Amble) was dating fellow Minnesota resident Lisa Jergon, now a teacher at a public middle school, for close to a year when Jergon’s parents stepped in and put an end to the relationship. The break-up apparently devastated Bachmann and sent her into a deep depression which lead her to seek counseling at a local gay and lesbian community center located not far off the WSU campus. It was there where she met Marcus Bachmann, also coming out of a break-up with his partner. The two became best of friends and decided that if they couldn’t be with their true loves they would be with each other and make the best of a bad situation.”
” It was also then that Bachmann decided that if she couldn’t be with her lover, she would make it impossible for others to be with theirs as well. In turn this has become one of the centerpieces of her political campaigns throughout the years.”
I shudder to think what Michele will has to say about this. After all who can forget how she dissed Eugene?
“You might recall how Rep. Michele Bachmann (R-MN) has said that she first became a Republican as a result of her disgust at reading a “snotty” Gore Vidal novel. So what does Gore Vidal think?
As we reported last week, Bachmann told a Republican crowd in Michigan that she cast off her youthful Democratic roots after reading Gore Vidal’s novel Burr, which depicted the Founding Fathers in an unfavorable light. (We later discovered that Bachmann had told this story before — and that in an earlier version of the tale, she said it had been a different Vidal novel, 1876.)
Our old colleague Justin Elliott at Salon did quite a lot of work to get a response from Vidal. And finally, through an assistant, he received this written statement from the man himself:
“She is too stupid to deserve an answer”
Could Eugene have crawled back from the grave to play this dirty trick on you Michele? And WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN???? Their gay dad is one thing. What are they (all 28 of them) going to think of their lesbian mom?
Sing us out Joan