Daily Archives: January 23, 2013

Mighty Impressive, No?

Well let’s get into the Wayback Machine


and return to the days of


for in 1967. . .

Two years later — Sonewall

Ever since things have changed.

“Coming out as LGBT is rarely easy, which makes Jacob Rudolph’s story all the more impressive. When the high school student in Parsippany, N.J., came out, he did so in front of the entire school. His classmates responded with a standing ovation.
During the presentation of senior class awards, Rudolph was given the Class Actor award, an irony not lost on him. “Sure I’ve been in a few plays and musicals, but more importantly, I’ve been acting every single day of my life,” Rudolph said. “You see, I’ve been acting as someone I’m not.”

And until quite recently the consequences of acting who you really are were uniformly —

But now –

“Footage of Rodolph’s speech and its positive reception was uploaded to the Web by his father, who noted on the video that it “took more guts to do than anything I’ve ever attempted in my life.”
Rudolph spoke with NJ.com about his speech and the aftermath. “The more leaders who pop up in the LGBT community, the more it inspires others. It just becomes a whole domino effect,” he said.
“It felt like this immense weight was gone,” he added. “I’d been carrying it around with me for years. It affected me academically, emotionally, socially. It’s like my life is now before and after. I think that explanation is what made this whole process make sense.”
The reactions have been across-the-board positive, including on Twitter. Anthony G. Watson tweeted, “‏#Jacob #Rudolph Gay New Jersey Teen, Comes Out During School Award Ceremony! We are all very proud of you!”
Ben Rudolph wrote, “I don’t think I’m related to Jacob Rudolph (not this one, anyway)…but I’m still proud of him.”
And another supporter wrote, “Things That Make Me Smile: Teenager Jacob Rudolph comes out to his parents, teachers, and his whole class…”

By contrast –

Was Jodie Foster’s ‘Coming Out’ a Step Backward for Gays and Lesbians?
Every other Tuesday, Steven Petrow, the author of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners” (Workman, 2011), addresses questions about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age audience. Send questions for Civil Behavior to stevenpetrow@earthlink.net.

I thought Abe Rosenthal was dead.


Apparently not.

Dear Civil Behavior: I have to say I was actually downright annoyed by Jodie Foster’s “coming out” speech at the Golden Globes. On the one hand, of course I commend anyone who has the guts to come out, but I felt like her speech was less about coming out and more about chastising the media and her fan base for wanting her to do that. She kept referring to her life in the public eye and her right to privacy, and that’s fine, but if she doesn’t like the public eye, stop living in it. Partner that with her rambling speech and her choice of date (Mel Gibson — really) and I felt like Jodie’s coming out was a step back for gays and lesbians in Hollywood. Am I overreacting, or do you think Jodie Foster made a mess of her “coming out” speech?
–Lesbian in L.A.

A: Indeed I do think you’re overdramatizing things, but you’re far from alone. Many people have unleashed their inner critic in judging Jodie Foster’s remarks at the Golden Globes. One of the kinder souls, Matthew Breen, editor in chief of The Advocate, said that her speech left him “deeply confused and conflicted,” while on the opposite end of the spectrum Brett Easton Ellis, author of “American Psycho,” tweeted, “What is she? A three-year-old lesbian?” Still others piled on, calling her “selfish,” “disjointed,” even “clinically insane.”

I say whoa, what’s with all the shaming and raging?”

Whoa what’s with all the bearding and prevaricating?


“Yes, the speech rambled (“I’d have to spank Daniel Craig’s bottom.” Huh?) Yes, the tone was sometimes holier than thou (“I am not Honey Boo Boo ….” Leave the poor child alone). And yes, she did stick up for the unconscionable Mel Gibson (at least she’s not a fair-weather friend). But she did come out — in her own words and at a time of her own choosing:”

The best “choosing” money can buy.

“There is no way I could ever stand here without acknowledging one of the deepest loves of my life, my heroic co-parent, my ex-partner in love but righteous soul sister in life … my most beloved BFF of 20 years, Cydney Bernard. Thank you, Cyd. I am so proud of our modern family.”

“Some have called this coming out “oblique” and “veiled” because she didn’t follow some unwritten L.G.B.T. protocol, which apparently demands the use of the all-important L word to make it official. What’s veiled about her reference to a beloved female partner and co-parent? To boot, she did use the phrase “loud and proud” — that’s not exactly an undecipherable code. (Six years ago Ms. Foster acknowledged “my beautiful Cydney” at a Hollywood power breakfast, which also seemed too subtle to be recorded as the definitive coming out.) And what’s happened to our sense of humor? Remember how we just enjoyed the tease when Ellen DeGeneres confided to Rosie O’Donnell that she was, in fact, “Lebanese,” and when Melissa Etheridge recorded a CD called “Yes I Am”? To my ears, Ms. Foster was both following suit and trying her own hand at humor, coming out as — drumroll, please — “single.” Who among us hasn’t flubbed a joke? (Granted, we don’t normally do that in front of 19 million viewers.)”

Granted we don’t sneer at the LGBT among those 19 million in quite the way Jodie did either.

“In fact, Ms. Foster’s speech brought me unexpectedly to tears, not because she made a mess of it, but because every time one of us comes out it’s a moment of profound courage and vulnerability. It’s the life-changing blink of an eye in which we shed our skins and ask to be known — and loved — for who we are. And that’s exactly what she said: “I want to be seen, to be understood deeply and to be not so very lonely.” Isn’t that one of the most compelling reasons to leave the closet? Isn’t that what we all want in the end?”


“If any harm is done, it’s certainly not going to be to Ms. Foster’s image or career, but to all of those still closeted — whether 15 or 50 — who may find yet another reason not to come out, lest their way might not be the “right” way. Sometimes we “ramble”; sometimes we’re “disjointed”; but it’s the raw kernel of honesty that matters — and that I heard in the six-minute speech.”

IOW the “real problem” isn’t snotty closet dykes like Jodie.


“Speaking of 50, it’s difficult to overlook the generational overlay on this entire tempest. Ms. Foster kicked off her speech by saying straight out, “I’m 50!” adding: “I already did my coming out a thousand years ago, in the Stone Age. Those very quaint days when a fragile young girl would open up to trusted friends and family and co-workers and then gradually to everyone who knew her, everyone she actually met.” Her recollection of a more private coming out resonated with many boomers, even the snark twins du jour, Kathy Griffin (“Well done, lady”) and Rosie O’Donnell (“amazing speech”).

Fail and Fail.

“Yep, that’s how our generation did it — one conversation at a time, on our own terms, when it felt right.”

That’s why you generation IS SO FUCKING PATHETIC!!

“Foster finally felt safe enough to go public, however clumsily, speaks volumes about her lifetime achievement.

What’s your take on Jodie Foster’s speech?”


And now direct from “The Stone Age” a REAL lesbian